Tuesday 8 January 2008

The EX Boyfriend is right!!!

One of the reasons The EX Boyfriend dumped LMS (by TEXT!!!) is because he said they were too different and had too little in common. He is totally right.
Little Miss Sensible is brave, I have watched her blossom from the scared little 9 year old joining a new school where everyone knew each other and were loathe to let her join their groups, to a popular, bubbly, vivacious young lady with a large and diverse group of friends. The EX is a coward.
Little Miss Sensible has held down a demanding waitressing job since she was 14 years old. Despite being under a lot of pressure with exams, and with not getting on with one of the cooks at the cafe, she has stuck with the job and is a valued member of the cafe team. The cafe manager told her when she left to go to university that she was welcome to work during her holidays, and just to let them know she was available. She is hardworking, punctual and reliable. The EX despite much prodding from his family has never had a paid job.
Little Miss Sensible, despite the way The EX has treated her is still only thinking of others (her baby brother and even The EX). She is protective of them both, still!! She is the kindest, most generous person I know, which can sometimes lead to people taking advantage of her (I know I am guilty of that) and her letting them walk all over her. The EX is selfish. If he thought of others at all, he would have talked to her when he began to feel unhappy in the relationship - rather than try to deal with it all himself, long term relationships are partnerships, not solo journeys. When The EX stays over at our house, they invariably stay up until the small hours of the morning. LMS will then get up in the morning to see her family and especially her little brother. She fiercely defends The Ex's sleep and no-one is allowed to disturb him, until he finally deigns to get up, usually in the late afternoon. He then mopes around and falls asleep again on the sofa - and again LMS will try and make sure everyone lets him sleep, as he is tired. She never thinks of herself in all of this, and is so totally unselfish in her attitude.
So YES The EX is right - they are totally different and he doesn't deserve the prize he had in LMS. He has lost a rare and beautiful young lady, who will go on to find a new (hopefully much less selfish and irresponsible) partner and have a happy life. One day he will realise what he has lost. Poor The EX.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thanks mum :)

LMS
xxx

Janet said...

No thanks needed - its ALL TRUE. You are way too good for him always have been, always will be.
Lots of love and hugs
Mummy
xxxx
PS sending you some hugs in the post :-)

Anonymous said...

Please tell LMS that even though it doesn't seem so right now, that she'll be better off without him.. If he's so selfish as to only think to save himself from the confrontation of breaking off the relationship by using a text message, then who needs him? Peole who think only of themselves do not change...they only go on to take advantage of more people. One of these days, LMS will meet a nice guy who will think she's wonderful and want to do all he can to make her happy!!
LMS...we love you!!!!
your "american family"

Janet said...

Thank you Cabbage Queen, LMS reads this blog so I'm sure she will see your supportive message. And I totally agree with everything you said.
Take care
Love
Janet

Anonymous said...

The problem is, for the past five years he WAS a nice guy who thought i was wonderful and did all he could to make me happy!!! lol

Thanks, I appreciate it Cabbage Queen :)

LMS
xxx

Anonymous said...

Dear Janet
I understand and sympathise with the hurt you are all feeling right now, but I am shocked and saddened by some of the comments on your blog. At least one is untrue, some verge on libellous and a couple amount to threatening behaviour. I respectfully urge you to consider the wisdom of implicitly endorsing, on an open blog devoted to your adoption efforts, suggestions of extreme physical violence against a kind and gentle person whom you have considered part of your family and who has treated your existing adoptee as a brother.

With kindest regards to you all and sincere respect and admiration to LMS for the restrained, intelligent and mature way that she's dealing with this.

Andrew

Anonymous said...

Which one is untrue?

And if lots of other people agree with mum, most of which I've never met, surely it's not just a mother's over-reaction?

Oh and mum's threats of violence are nothing compared to those of my friends!

A kind and gentle person he may have been. Now he's shown himself to being capable of being cruel, malicious and an incredible liar.

LMS
xxx

Janet said...

Dear Andrew (father of The EX I presume),

I am sorry that you find the comments on this blog, whether by me or others, regarding The EX so shocking and saddening. I agree that up until this point The EX has been like a member of the family, and has treated Little Prince like a brother and has appeared to be a kind a gentle person. However, he chose to deal with the end of his long term relationship like this - not LMS. He has also chosen not to answer her texts asking for an explanation and if he would still like to see Little Prince. Although as he has treated LMS like this (someone who only days earlier he was telling how much he loved her), I don't see how we can trust him not to drop Little Prince in the same way, and as Little Prince has already lost a great deal in his short lifetime, I sadly and reluctantly don't think we can take the chance.
And as this Blog is anonymous and very few people in the 'real world' know who I or my family are, I don't think anyone will know who The EX really is.
Best wishes
Janet


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