We got a letter this morning from Little Prince's placing LA, containing a letter and photo from his Tummy Mummy. It was completely out of the blue, as this is only the second time in almost four years that she has replied to our Letterbox letters. Little Prince listened while I read the letter to him, and seemed very interested in the photo (that could have been the vehicles, rather than the person in it though). I'm not sure how I feel about the letter. It was a shock to get it out of the blue like that. I am pleased for Little Prince that he has that contact from Tummy Mummy, and the confirmation that she hasn't forgotten about him. The ongoing contact should be good for him as he grows up and realises more what he has lost through adoption, and may stand him in good stead if he decides to contact Tummy Mummy as an adult. But another part of me is cross with some of the wording in the letter, where it feels to me that I am portrayed as a munificent babysitter, and I'm his mummy. I'm not sure how I feel, happy/sad and thrilled/angry and a whole lot more besides! But I love Little Prince so very very much and all my conflicted emotions are worth it, if it gives him even one shred of reassurance that he is still thought about by his original family.
Friday 4 April 2008
Surprises in the Post
We got a letter this morning from Little Prince's placing LA, containing a letter and photo from his Tummy Mummy. It was completely out of the blue, as this is only the second time in almost four years that she has replied to our Letterbox letters. Little Prince listened while I read the letter to him, and seemed very interested in the photo (that could have been the vehicles, rather than the person in it though). I'm not sure how I feel about the letter. It was a shock to get it out of the blue like that. I am pleased for Little Prince that he has that contact from Tummy Mummy, and the confirmation that she hasn't forgotten about him. The ongoing contact should be good for him as he grows up and realises more what he has lost through adoption, and may stand him in good stead if he decides to contact Tummy Mummy as an adult. But another part of me is cross with some of the wording in the letter, where it feels to me that I am portrayed as a munificent babysitter, and I'm his mummy. I'm not sure how I feel, happy/sad and thrilled/angry and a whole lot more besides! But I love Little Prince so very very much and all my conflicted emotions are worth it, if it gives him even one shred of reassurance that he is still thought about by his original family.
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25th May 2009 - See New Child again & Court Date
23rd May 2009 - Fly back to Ethiopia
26th March 2009 - Fly to Ethiopia :-)
3rd March 2009 - Dossier Arrived at Orphanage
26th February 2009 - Dossier sent to Ethiopia
22nd December 2008 - Dossier back at DCSF
28th November 2008 - Certificate of Eligibility ISSUED
6th October 2008 - PASSED Approval Panel
7th July 2008 - Homestudy Update Started
28th Feb 2008 - Told LA we wished to change country
LID (Logged in Date) with CCAA 16th August 2007
Documents to China 10th August 2007
Passed Approval Panel 5th March 2007
Homestudy started 6th June 2006
First Contact with our LA 1st Jan 2006
2 comments:
Hugs, I cant imagine how you are feeling. But you are the Mummy he knows and loves:), its good that he has the opportunity to keep in contact and at least he has the option of meeting her and knowing more about his background when he is an adult.
But I have several adopted friends, some have choosen not to contact their birth mother and some have. But there adopted mothers are always thought of as their parents:).
Love S
Thank you
Love
Janet
xxx
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